How Do You Get From Here to There?

-->realise that the goal is way too hard at this point in
If I was going to drive from Brisbane to Perth, andtime, and that you're not likely to realise it within the
I'd never made the trek before, it would be easy fortimeframe that you've set yourself, so you give up
me to just think, 'Yeah, I know where I'm going, andon it and it ends up becoming a de-motivator that
our road system is good enough, so I'll just get in thespreads into other areas of your life as well.
car and drive, following the road signs along the way'.Remember, goals are meant to inspire you, not to
A few hours into the trip, when I'm feeling a littleset you up for failure, so make sure they're
fatigued and distracted, I might miss a couple ofchallenging but achievable.
signs and after a while, find myself at the back of5. Set goals for your personal and business life.
nowhere heading north instead of west. I might panicSetting goals in all areas of your life will help to
for a moment, start to stress, and spend a lot ofensure that you maintain a sense of balance, which in
time, effort and energy getting back on track again.itself can help you to keep up the momentum
Sure, I'll eventually make it to Perth, but it will haveneeded to achieve your goals. Start by setting goals
taken me longer and cost me more than it wouldaround:
have if I'd taken the time to plan the trip before IFamily and home life
headed off.Physical body and health
We all need a good road map (yes, even the blokes!).Emotional health
Many of us treat our personal and business lives inSpiritual health
the same way - we head off in the general directionFinances and career
of where we want to get to, hoping that we'll spotContinued education
all the right signs along the way, and when we findSocial life and relationships
ourselves off track, it can really throw us for a loop!6. Write your goals in great detail.
Just like in our road trip example, we don't make firmThe more information and detail that you put into
plans for where we want to go, how we're going toyour goals, the more efficient your subconscious
get there, and where we should be at certain pointsmind will be at helping you to achieve them. You see,
in time...and then we wonder why we're working sowhen you write down a detailed goal, your
hard but not getting to where we want to be.subconscious mind takes that as an instruction to
In my experience, the most common things thatmake that thing happen. It's like when you decide to
stop people from achieving their goals are:buy a new car, and you suddenly start to see that
Lack of planning and procrastination.same type of car everywhere - what we tune our
And sometimes we even procrastinate the planning!subconscious minds in to, we bring into our lives. So,
We all like to put off doing difficult or uncomfortableif you're setting a goal to take an overseas holiday,
things, it is a perfectly human thing to do, but itput all of the details about that trip into your goal -
often leaves us stuck on the road to nowhere.who you'll fly with, where you'll stay, what you'll see
If there's anything that you want or need to do inthere and so on. The more detail, the better.
life, realise that there will never be a more perfectGOAL BOOSTER
time to start making it happen than right now, today.Our memories are strongly linked to our sense of
All you need to do is make the decision to just getsmell, you've probably had the experience when you
on with it - stop thinking, worrying and stressingsmell a particular aroma and in an instant it takes you
about it, and start doing it.to another place and time in your mind. You can also
How? The fastest and easiest way to get from A touse this memory association to help you focus on
B, from Brisbane to Perth, or from where you areyour goals. For example, this year one of my goals is
today to wherever you want to be, is to create ato go to Turkey for the rose harvest (as an
road map for yourself by setting goals. I'm going toaromatherapist this is a very cool thing to do), so I
walk you through how to do that, but before wehave been vaporising rose essential oil and using a
get started, it's important to point out the differencerosewater spritzer every day to help keep me
between dreams and goals. Dreams are just that,focused on achieving that goal.
they're fuzzy, feel-good fantasies that live in our7. Keep them in your face.
imaginations, and that's often where they stay. WeOut of sight, out of mind. If you don't remind
all need to have dreams, but we also want to makeyourself of your goals every day, it's very easy to
some of those dreams a reality in our lives, andlose track of them and just get busy with the
that's what a goal is: something that we are aiming today-to-day demands of life. I keep my goals in my
actually make happen. Goals are the road maps thatdiary, so that I see them every day. Reviewing your
we create for our lives, they pinpoint exactly wheregoals daily is a crucial part of your success and vital
we're going and how we're going to get there, andto make sure that your conscious and subconscious
they help to give us a sense of purpose, directionminds are focused on working toward them. Take a
and achievement in life.few minutes each morning to read your goals and
So let's start setting goals.visualise yourself achieving them (really do a little
1. Make sure your goals light you up.daydreaming here, imagine what it would look like and
The things we usually put off doing the most are thefeel like to have achieved your goals), this is a
things we don't like doing; the things that bore us;technique that sportspeople use all the time to help
that aren't fun and that don't give us a sense ofthem stay focused and committed.
satisfaction. So, if you set goals around doing things8. Monitor your progress and adjust your goals.
that make you feel that way, you won't make aReview your goals periodically and adjust them as
true commitment to achieving them. Sure, we can'tyou go - just because you've set a goal doesn't
always spend our days doing our favourite things, butmean you can't make changes to it along the way,
there has to be a great pay-off in it for you - youryou've got to be flexible. As you look at your goals
goals have to light you up from the inside; they haveand plan your day, ask yourself if what you are doing
to 'feel' right for you.is taking you toward your goals or not. If it is, you
GOAL BOOSTERknow you're on the right track, and if it's not, see
Because I am a natural health practitioner I use andwhether it's your goal or your actions that need to
recommend a lot of 'natural medicines' that can helpbe adjusted to get you heading in the right direction
in all areas of our lives. Ginger is a herb that isagain. When you do find yourself off track don't give
excellent for giving you a metaphorical 'kick in theyourself a hard time for it (I did say 'when' not 'if'
pants'! It's brilliant for getting procrastinators intobecause we're all only human and we all wonder off
action. Anytime you need a bit of a push along:track now and then), just be glad that you realised it,
· Brew yourself a cup of fresh ginger herband get back to what you know you should be
tea (hot or iced). Take a knob of fresh ginger, gratedoing.
or chop it, and infuse a teaspoon in a cup of hotGOAL BOOSTER
water - drink it warm or let it cool and drink as aLearn to put up your hand and ask for help when
tangy iced tea.you need it. You may never be able to achieve some
· Use some aromatherapy in your home orof your goals without a little help or guidance along
workplace. Vaporising some ginger essential oil, inthe way - but for some people (myself included),
combination with other energising essential oils suchlearning to put ego aside and ask for help can be a
as May Chang and Grapefruit, will help keep yougoal in itself! You'll reach your goals, faster and easier
focused on the task at hand and lighten your moodand give other people the opportunity to be of
when you're feeling bogged down by it all. I haveservice to you and to share in your success if you
created an oil blend for this very purpose, it's calledjust learn to ask for what you need.
Play More, just add 5-10 drops to an electric room9. Share your goals with someone.
vaporiser or car vaporiser.Sharing your goals with someone you trust can be a
2. Write your goals in language that excites you intogreat way of making sure you stay on track, and it
action.can give you someone to help celebrate your
What impact do you think your language has on yourmilestones with along the way. But you do need to
mental, emotional and physical wellbeing, and on whatbe careful about whom you choose to share your
you achieve in your life? We all know someone whogoals with. It's human nature that some people will be
is 'Mr or Ms Negative', they always have a problem,excited about what you want to achieve and be
an excuse, and a reason for why they can't do whatthere with you every step of the way, while other
they want to do, or why they aren't getting thepeople can feel threatened, or jealous, or just put
results they want - and it's always someone else'sout that you're making an effort to change your life
fault! In reality, it is that little voice that we all havewhile they're not, and they can react negatively and
inside of us that can make us doubt and questionmake you doubt yourself. So choose one or two
ourselves - and some people are better at managingtrusted people, who are as positive and 'can do' as
it than others.you are and help each other to achieve everything
3. Be Positive.you want in your lives.
You'll never get that little voice to be quiet, but youGOAL BOOSTER
can take control of what it's saying and what youReward yourself! So often we focus on what hasn't
choose to pay attention to. The key to changingworked in our lives and what we're yet to achieve,
your self-talk is to first begin noticing it, and then toand we forget to acknowledge ourselves for what
replace the negative commentary with a positive one.we do achieve. Make this the year of acknowledging
For example, you could replace existing scripts suchand celebrating your achievements, and share that
as 'I can't do this' with 'I'm learning how to do this', orsuccess with a friend. Within my own close network
'I am determined to become good at this', or 'I knowof friends, we have chosen this year to share all of
I can do this'. So when you're setting and reviewingour 'Woo-Hoo!' moments, whether by email, phone or
your goals always use positive language, confidentin person, we connect with those people who share
and inspiring words that describe you achieving yourour vision and celebrate and encourage each other
goals, and leave no room for negativity.with some good-old positive reinforcement.
4. Shoot for the stars - one step at a time.Everyone benefits from goal setting, without it, life
Goals are about stretching yourself to achieve thecan just seem to be happening to us, pushing and
things you want in your life, but we still have topulling us in all kinds of directions and we can start to
focus on taking manageable steps along the way -feel powerless about what's happening and where
you don't have to achieve a lifetime's worth of goalswe're heading. Remember to set goals for all areas
this year! For example, if I were to write down aof your life, it's not all about what we want to
goal to buy a $1 million beach house, and I earnachieve in our working lives, it's also about 'having a
$50,000 per year, the stress that sits behind this goallife'. Living a balanced life is about finding a way to
will sabotage my achieving it. It's called non-integrativehave it all, without losing your health, sense of
thinking. So while you might set a big bold goal suchhumour or sanity along the way!
as this, within a short period of time you will start to