| lipi, I have a nice idea for an article for you," Linda | | | | you see." You can be sure she will do it and love it |
| came beaming. The way she spoke made me feel | | | | too. |
| that the idea must be a really good one. She calls me | | | | Use innovative adjectives: |
| Chilipi for whatever reasons. "Really? Let me have it," | | | | Do not stick to the same adjectives all the time even |
| I prompted. "Why don't you write an article about | | | | though she doesn't mind. There are so many good |
| us? You are such a wonderful lover..." "Our love | | | | ones. |
| story?" "Not story. Things like...the way you love | | | | The thesaurus in your computer will help you. Words |
| me...the nice things you say...your jokes...the way you | | | | like gorgeous, ravishing, stunning, etc. can be sprinkled |
| pamper me...you know..." I knew what she meant. | | | | to good effect. Call her honey, angel, sweetheart,' |
| "That is a really a cute idea, Linda," I said, "Let me | | | | sweety, etc. No limit for innovations. |
| see, an article on how to pamper your girlfriend?" | | | | My friend once called his girlfriend "Onida". She was |
| "Aah! That should be the title!" | | | | baffled. |
| She had already decided which publication I should | | | | He explained: Neighbour's envy, owner's pride! Is |
| send it too! Male as well as female readers will love it! | | | | there any girl who wouldn't love that? |
| She was sure. These are not tricks. These are the | | | | Good words cost nothing: |
| tips I use with good effect. They should work for | | | | My uncle used to say to my aunt, "Hurry, up! We are |
| you too. | | | | already late. I don't understand you, woman!" Without |
| Mould them according to your requirement. Here I | | | | even looking at her after she had spent one hour |
| would like to quote, "In life, there is a very rare | | | | dressing up, I used to compensate for that, "Aunty, I |
| chance that you will meet a person you fall in love | | | | don't like to call you 'aunty'. You look so young and |
| with and who loves you in return. Once you have | | | | charming. You can't be more than 30!" Her face would |
| this, don't let it go. You may never get it again." | | | | glow with happiness. |
| Don't launch an attack: | | | | A few nice words don't cost you anything. But they |
| She got down from her car and came running in. I | | | | go a long way in making women happy. They |
| was sitting there waiting for her. I had been waiting | | | | deserve those words too! |
| for the last half an hour. She sat down in the chair | | | | Make her feel important: |
| opposite me and wanted to say something. I knew | | | | When you want to take her to a new joint, don't |
| she wanted to apologise for coming late. | | | | say, "I like the food there. Let us go." Instead say, |
| "Will you ever come in time? Why don't you have | | | | "You will love the food there!" Your words will show |
| some time sense?" "So, your boss let you leave at | | | | that you care for her likes and dislikes. |
| last!" "Why your boss let you leave at last!" "Why are | | | | Give her equal opportunity to spend: |
| you still worKing in that stupid place?" "What great | | | | Most of the time our expenses even out. Food bills, |
| things are you 'doing there?" I did not launch an | | | | movies, petrol. "I will pay for it!" She declares |
| attack like that. | | | | sometimes. Other times I pay. If one of us takes the |
| Pay an unexpected compliment: | | | | initiative, we let it be that way. Equal sharing is |
| Instead, I said, "Linda, the problem with you is...you | | | | always good, when both are earning. |
| look more beautiful each time I see you. What is the | | | | Respect her job: |
| secret?" | | | | Understand her work environment. Each workplace is |
| Her expressions turned from worry to joy. Finally, | | | | different. The bosses, colleagues, and the work itself |
| she gave a nice ear-to-ear smile. | | | | are different. The work pressure is unique. When you |
| "You are so nice, Chilipi. I know you are simply pulling | | | | meet, both of you should be relieved of all tensions. |
| my leg. But still I love it." She continued, "I thought | | | | Arguments will add to the tensions. |
| you are going to scold me for coming late." I "Scold | | | | Don't hurt her selfrespect. If your work is important |
| you? No chance. I know about mid-day traffic...or | | | | to you, hers is to her. So, tell her that you |
| may be you had a sudden meeting in the office?" | | | | understand the importance of her work. Assure her |
| "You are very understanding. I am so lucky," she said | | | | that a few minutes delay doesn't make any |
| wholeheartedly. | | | | difference. The heaven won't fall. Next time she will |
| We continue our sweet talk. You can be more | | | | try her best to arrive before you. |
| romantic with such compliments. | | | | Make amends immediately: |
| Treat her as unique: | | | | Sometimes, you might hurt her feelings with |
| Give her all the love you can. Treat her as an | | | | something, you do or say. Once it happened with me. |
| individual with selfesteem. The way she does things, | | | | "You can't come? What great thing are you doing |
| the way she talks, the way she smiles...all these | | | | there?" I asked her on the phone. It was a slip of |
| make her different from others. You loved this | | | | tongue. It happens. Nobody is perfect. She did not |
| different "her." Let her be what she is. Sometimes, | | | | react. |
| she wants to know, "Chilipi, why do you love me so | | | | At least, she did not show it. But I realised my |
| much?" "I love you because you are Linda, the only | | | | mistake. I called her immediately and apologised. It is |
| woman on this earth for me," her face glows. | | | | better to let go of your pride and ego for the sake |
| Be sincere: | | | | of the one you love rather than to lose the loved |
| A few words are enough. Be sincere. Let them come | | | | one because of your pride and ego. |
| out of your heart. Tell her how special she is. Once | | | | Be sensitive to her moods and problems: |
| she asked, "Don't you think I am a bit difficult | | | | It is true that you both meet to spend some nice |
| sometimes? Please tell me how to change myself." I | | | | time together. You wish to leave all your problems |
| brushed her words aside, "No, Linda. I love you as, | | | | and worries behind you. But she may have some |
| you are. If you behave differently, you will not be | | | | problems at home or in the office. You shouldn't I |
| Linda. You will be somebody else. | | | | say, "For God's sake, don't bring your problems here |
| Not my Linda." Treat her well. Tell her what she | | | | and spoil my mood." Problems and mood can't be |
| wants to hear. Give wholeheartedly. Like they say, | | | | switched off and on as you wish. You are equal |
| "The more you give, the more you receive." | | | | partners in both happiness and worries. Be sensitive |
| Give her sweet shocks: | | | | to her problems. A few nice words might change her |
| Give her some lovely, sweet shocks. Enjoy her | | | | mood and make your evening perfect. |
| reaction. See how she loves those shocks and love | | | | Don't try to encroach upon her space: |
| you more in return. I ask her, "Linda, why do you | | | | Let her have her space. Don't encroach on it even |
| confuse me so much?" "What did I do?" she is | | | | with good intentions. She may have some issues she |
| confused. | | | | may not want to share with you - issues related to |
| "Just now you removed your spectacles. I am | | | | her parents or siblings perhaps. |
| confused. I don't know whether you are more | | | | I say, "Linda, I don't want to force you to share |
| beautiful with your specs on or without them." "You | | | | everything with me. But if you wish to you are |
| are impossible." Her expression says she loves every | | | | welcome. I am always with you." |
| bit of it. | | | | Be a good listener: |
| Tease her: | | | | Be a good listener. Let her speak about her problems. |
| "Everything is perfect with you Linda, but there is | | | | Show her that you are interested in them. Interrupt |
| one problem," I tease her. "What is that?" Linda was | | | | with a few comments. At the end, if you have some |
| worried and anxious to know her problem. | | | | suggestions, it is wonderful. Even otherwise, half of |
| "Your problem is that you don't believe me when I | | | | her burden has been unloaded just by pouring |
| say you are a beautiful and wonderful girl," giving her | | | | everything out. |
| a Chilipi smile. | | | | You can use these tips because you are married? |
| She loved it but said, "I know I am not. You are | | | | The fact that you are married does not mean you |
| simply saying that!" I don't leave it at that. "Look | | | | don't have a girlfriend! What I mean is that a girlfriend |
| madam, do one thing. Today after you go home, | | | | is not a wife, but your wife can still be your girlfriend. |
| look at yourself in the mirror. Don't simply look. | | | | She has not changed after marriage. You haven't |
| Observe carefully - your hair, forehead, eyebrows, | | | | either. She loves you the same way. You too. |
| eyes everything. Every bit is so nice. You will love | | | | Go ahead and use these tips and enjoy the fruits |
| what you see. Tomorrow come and tell me what | | | | they bring you. |